Gentleness can feel like a lost virtue where loud opinions are celebrated. But it isn't a weakness, it's strength under control. Gentleness is anchored in love and guided by the Spirit. It is evidence that God is at work within us. It shapes how we respond when others hurt us. These five practices will help you focus on gentleness, even in a hurried and harsh world. When you seek to grow in gentleness, you're seeking to live more like Jesus.
Before you face the noise of the day, take a few moments of silence with God. Let His peace fill your heart so that you respond gently rather than react harshly. Stillness invites gentleness to grow.
Jesus, the King of Kings, described Himself as “gentle and lowly in heart” (Matthew 11:29). His power never overpowered people; it lifted and healed them. Let His example shape your tone and actions.
It’s easy to speak quickly in frustration, but gentleness grows in the pause. The Holy Focus app helps you slow down distractions so you can respond thoughtfully, not react impulsively. A gentle answer often diffuses tension.
Gentleness doesn’t mean avoiding truth, but it does mean delivering it with grace. Ask God to help your words reflect love, not pride. Ephesians 4:15 calls us to “speak the truth in love,” which is the essence of gentleness.
I’ve often found it easier to be harsh with myself and others than to slow down and respond with gentleness. But God’s kindness kept meeting me in my mess, showing me that real strength is quiet, calm, and full of mercy. That’s why I built Holy Focus, to create space to pause, pray, and let God shape our hearts before we speak and act.
Think of the times God corrected, guided, or comforted you with patience and kindness. His gentleness toward you is an invitation to extend the same to others. Gratitude for His grace helps you live with a softer spirit.
Gentleness requires deep trust in God’s sovereignty and a willingness to let love lead even when emotions are high. It means choosing compassion over control and grace over aggression. Start small if you want to live out gentleness. Take a moment to ask Him to grow it in your spirit. Let God remind you that gentleness is a fruit of the Spirit you can receive and live out day by day.
